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Being a writer and provider of relationship input for women always puts me in the position of reading what others write. Sadly, the question of – Why Men Withdraw from their Women – is almost never answered correctly. There are typically two scenarios of incorrect answer. The first – i.e. the ‘Your Fault’ syndrome – in which it describes that the guy is ‘getable’ but only if you say the right thing in the right way. Unfortunately for you, alas, your frustration combined with great insecurity vis-à-vis the open sharing of same has prevented you from sharing your true feelings. It further holds that an undisclosed level of frustration on the part of the unrequited female ultimately leads to an outburst of negative emotions and this causes him to re-evaluate his involvement with you. The result is skid marks.
The second scenario holds that all men are non-committers and remain so until they are engineered into commitment by the enlightened or edified female. This scenario also presupposes that men withdraw because the need to be taken to that next level – ostensibly by you – is not happening; result – stagnation, and slightly shorter skid marks.
Both of these scenarios and the philosophies upon which they are based are totally incorrect. Men withdraw because the deliverable – you and everything about antibiotics Buy cheap Propecia Online being with you – gradually, or instantly via misuse, – is perceived to have fallen below his minimum acceptable level. Men function based upon an unspoken – and often unrecognized – psycho-emotional auto-assessment that I call the Love Equation. When the cost of the relationship order cytotec online for him – i.e. his freedom – is not greatly exceeded by the value and rapture associated with the prize or reward – that is you – he will choose not to get involved romantically with you. If he got involved and his recalculation using the Love Equation now seems tilted against his interests – he will withdraw. That is it! That is all of it and it never has anything to do with what was said or unsaid. All the ‘he said’, ‘she said’ lexapro 5 mg and what might have been spoken or engineered to have taken place conversationally will not alter the outcome of the equation and, hence, his subsequent go/stay decision.
If you want a man to stay, alter his perception of the outcome of a recalculation of the Love Equation. This can only be done in one of or both of two ways. Stay buy Unisom online tuned boys and girls for next week’s story where we reveal exactly what those two ways are.
If you are dealing with a guy who has backed away and you are trying to get ex back from a possible breakup, or if you are planning to win your ex back, a thorough understanding of the Love Equation might help to get your ex back.
